Abby Li's Dad

For almost six years (1996 to 2002), I sent out a weekly email to my friends. This blog serves as an archive for those emails. The entries starting in May 2006 are my personal reflections on life as a father to Abby, a husband to Melissa, and everything else.

Sunday, December 22, 1996

ANOTHER CHRISTMAS PUN

Hi everyone,

Enjoy! This piece of humor is forwarded to me by Anna Man. Sorry if
you've already seen it. Take care and have a great Christmas!

-Josh.
_________

A Russian couple was walking down the street in Moscow one night,
when the man felt a drop hit his nose. "I think it's raining", he said
to his wife.
"No, that felt more like snow to me", she replied. "No, I'm sure it
was just rain, he said". Well, as these things go, they were about
to have a major argument about whether it was raining or snowing.
Just then they saw a minor communist party official walking toward them.
"Let's not fight about it", the man said, "Let's ask Comrade Rudolph
whether it's officially raining or snowing". As the official approached,
the man said, "Tell us, Comrade Rudolph, is it officially raining or
snowing?". "It's raining, of course", he replied, and walked on.
But the woman insisted: "I know that felt like snow!", to which the man
quietly replied: "Rudolph the Red knows rain, dear"!

Tuesday, December 17, 1996

I think you'll really like this story..

The story has been told for centuries now. The story of Gaspar, Melchior
and Balthasar, and the gifts they brought to the newborn king. And of
how they saw the star and followed it for weeks across mountain and
valley and desert.
In the stately procession on their swaying beasts, they came and placed
their treasures at the feet of the infant Savior.

And what were their gifts? Ah, you say, everyone knows that. They brought
gold, frankincense and myrrh. So, since the earliest days, the story has
been told.

But you are not completely correct. The story is incomplete. You see, the
story was told by those who had seen the wise men on their journey. And by
those who stood by in wonderment as the wise men dismounted from their weary
camels and strode to the door of the rude stable. They watched as the wise
men held their jewelled cases high before them. That much the world say.
And so the story has been told.

But that is not the whole story. And if you listen very carefully and very
quietly, you shall hear the rest of it. You shall hear what happened when
the
wise men entered the stable. And you shall learn the secret of the gifts.

* * *

The first of the three visitors to approach the stable was Gaspar. His
cloak
was of the finest velvet, trimmed with flawless fir. At his waist and
throat
were clusters of gems, for Gaspar was a wealthy man.

Those who watched saw only that he paused at the stable door. "He prays,"
they
whispered to one another as they say Gaspar's lips move. But they were
mistaken. They could not see that it was the angel Gabriel, guarding the
holy
place, before whom Gaspar stopped.

"And who are you?" Gabriel asked in a voice that was firm but not unkind.

"I am Gaspar, and I come to worship the king," he replied.

"All who enter here must bring a gift," said Gabriel. "Have you a gift?"

"Indeed I have," said Gaspar, and he held aloft a finely wrought box. It
was
small, yet so heavy that his arms could hardly raise it. "I have bars of
the
purest gold."

"Your gift," said Gabriel somberly, "must be the essence of yourself. It
must
be something precious to you soul."

"Such have I brought," answered Gaspar confidently, the hint of a smile upon
his lips.

"So shall it be," said Gabriel. And he too smiled as he held the door for
Gaspar to enter.

* * *

And there, before the rough board wall of the stable, lay the king he had
travelled so far to see. The light of the lamp fell across the tiny face
and glinted back from the dark, bright eyes. In the shadows sat the
parents,
motionless and silent. And beyond them, Gaspar sensed the presence of the
sheep and oxen who stood their reverent watch.

Gaspar advanced a step and then another. He was about to kneel and lay his
gold before the child when he stopped and stood erect. There in his
outstretched hands lay not gold but a hammer. Its scarred and blackened
head was larger than a man's fist. And its handle of sinewy wood was as
long as a man's forearm.

"But, but---" Gaspar stammered as he stared, dumbfounded, at the heavy tool.

And then softly from behind him he heard the voice of Gabriel.

"So shall it be, and so it is," said the angel. "You have brought the
essence of yourself."

Gaspar turned indignantly. "A hammer? What foul magic is this?"

"None but the magic of truth," replied Gabriel. "What you hold in your
hands is the hammer of your greed. You have used it to pound wealth from
those who
labor so you can live in luxury. You have used it to build a mansion for
yourself while others dwell in hovels. You have raised it against friends
and
made them into enemies --- and against enemies to distroy them."

And suddenly Gaspar knew the truth. Bowed with shame, he turned toward the
door to leave.

But Gabriel blocked the way. "No, no," he said, "you have not offered your
gift."

"Give this?" Gaspar blurted in horror, looking at the hammer. "I cannot
give
this to a king!"

"But you must," Gabriel replied. "That is why you came. And you cannot
take
it back with you. It is too heavy. You have carried it for many years,
and
even now your arms ache with its weight. You must leave it here, or it
will
distroy you."

And once again, Gaspar knew that the angel spoke the truth. But still he
protested. "The hammer is too heavy," he said. "Why, the child cannot lift
it."

"He is the only one who can," replied the angel.

"But it is dangerous. He might bruse his hands or feet."

"That worry," said Gabriel, "you must leave to heaven. The hammer shall
find
its place."

Slowly Gaspar turned to where the Christ child lay. And slowly he placed
the
ugly hammer at the baby's feet. Then he rose and turned to the door,
pausing
only for an instant to look back at the tiny Savior before he rushed
outside.

The waiting world say only the smile that wreathed Gaspar's face as he
emerged
from the stable. His hands were raised, as though the wings of angles
graced
his fingers. That much the world say, and so the story is told.

* * *

Next to step to the door of the stable was Melchior, the learned Melchior.
He was not so resplendent as Gaspar for he wore the darker robes of the
scholar.
But the length of his beard and the furrows of his brow bespoke one who had
lived long with the wisdom of the ages. A hush fell over the onlookers as
he
too paused before the door. But only Melchior could see the angel who stood
guard. Only Melchior could hear him speak.

"What have you brought?" asked Gabriel.

And Melchior replied, "I bring frankincense, the fragrance of hidden lands
and bygone days."

"Your gift," cautioned Gabriel as he had done before, "must be something
precious to your soul."

"Of course it is," retorted Melchior.

"Then enter, and we shall see." And Gabriel opened the door.

* * *

Melchior stood breathless before the scene within. In all his many years of
searching for elusive Truth, he had never sensed such a presence as this.
He knelt reverently. And from beneath his robe he withdrew the silver
flask of precious ointment.

But then he drew back and stared. The vessel in his hand was not silver at
all. It was common clay, rough and stained as might be found in the
humblest cupboard. Aghast, he pulled the stopper from its mouth and
sniffed the contents. Then he leapt to his feet only to face the angel at
the door.

"I have been tricked," he said, spitting the words with fury. "This is not
the frankincense I brought!"

"What is it, then?" asked Gabriel.

"It is vinegar!" Melchior snarled as though it were a curse.

"So it shall be, and so it is," said Gabriel. "You have brought what you
are made of."

"You are an angel of fools," Melchior snorted.

But Gabriel went on. "You bring the bitterness of your heart, the soured
wine
of a life turned grim with jealousy and hate. You have carried within you
too
long the memory of old hurts. You have hoarded you resentments and breathed
on
sparks of anger until they have become as embers smouldering within you.
You
have sought for knowledge. But you have filled your life with poison."

As he heard these words, Melchior's shoulders drooped. He turned his face
away
from Gabriel and fumbled with his robe, as though to hide the earthen jar.
Silently he sidled toward the door.

Gabriel smiled gently and placed his hand on Melchior's arm. "Wait," he
said.
"You must leave your gift."

Melchior sighed with a pain that came from deep within him. "How I wish I
could! How long have I yearned to empty my soul of its bitterness. You have
spoken the truth my friend. But I cannot leave it here! Not here at
the feet of love an innocence."

"But you can," said Gabriel. "And you must, if you would be clean. This is
the only place you can leave it."

"But this is vile and bitter stuff," Melchior protested. "What if the child
should touch it to his lips?"

"You must leave that worry to heaven," Gabriel replied. "There is use even
for vinegar."

So Melchoir placed his gift before the Savior. And they say that when he
came
out of the stable, his eyes shone with the clearest light of heaven's truth.

His skin was as smooth as a youth's as he lifted his head to gaze on
horizons
he had never seen before. And in that, at least the story is correct.

* * *

There was yet one more visitor to make his offering. He strode forward now,
his back as straight as a tree, shoulders firm as an oaken beam. He walked
as
one born to command. This was Balthasar, leader of many legions, scourge of
walled cities. Before him, as he grasped it by its handle of polished ebony,
he
carried a brass-bound box.

A murmur ran through those who watched as they saw him hesitate before the
door. "Look," they whispered, "even the great Balthasar does obeisance
before
the king who waits within."

But we know that it was Gabriel who caused the warrior to pause. And we
know
too the question that he put.

"Have you a gift?"

"Of course," answered Balthasar. "I bring a gift of Myrrh, the most
precious
booty of my boldest conquest. Many have fought and died for centuries for
such
as this. It is the essence of the rarest herb."

"But is it the essence of yourself?" asked Gabriel.

"It is," replied the general.

Then come," said the angel, "and we shall see."

* * *

Even the fearless Balthasar was not prepared for the wave of awe that struck
him as he entered the holy place of the Christ child. He felt a weakness in
his knees as he had never known before. Closing his eyes, he knelt and
shuffled forward through the straw in reverence. Then, bowing until his
face
was near the ground, he slowly released his grip on the handle of the box
and
raised his head and opened his eyes.

What lay before him at the baby's feet was his own spear. Its smooth round
staff still glistening where the sweat of his palms had moistened it. And
the
razor edges of its steely tip caught the flickering light of the lamp.

"It cannot be!" Balthasar whispered hoarsely. "Some enemy has cast a
spell!"

"That is more true than you know," said Gabriel softly from behind him. "A
thousand enemies have cast their spell on you and turned your soul into a
spear."

"You speak in riddles," cried Balthasar, turning to face the angel. "I'll
teach you not to jest at a time like this." And he raised his fist as if to
strike.

Gabriel did not flinch as he continued; "Living only to conquer, you have
been
conquered. Each battle you win leads you only to another with a foe yet
more
formidable."

"Do you think I like to kill?" demanded Balthasar. "You angels know nothing
of
this world. I am the defender of my people. Were it not for my spear
leading
them into battle, we should have been destroyed long ago. Why, even now,
the
enemy is massing to invade us. As soon as I leave this holy place, I must
raise more armies. I must buy more spears to arm them and ---"

"More," Gabriel interrupted quietly, "then what?"

"Why, more than we have know. More than our enemies have."

"And what will they do then?" asked the angel softly. "Will your enemies
too
need more?"

Balthasar heard the angels words, and they seemed to echo in the deepest
places
of his soul as though vaguely familiar. Was the question one that he had
sometimes asked himself? Was it that faintest flicker of doubt, quickly
stifled by one who did not dare to doubt?

For a moment Balthasar hesitated. Then, taking control of himself, he
reached
down and grasped his spear --- and turned toward the door.

"I cannot leave this here," he said. "My people need it. We cannot afford
to
give it up."

"Are you sure," asked Gabriel, "that you can afford to keep it?"

"But our enemies will distroy us if we drop our spears," Balthasar said
impatiently. "We cannot take that risk."

"Yes, it is a risk," Gabriel replied slowly. "But your way is a certainty
--- a certainty of spears."

Once again Balthasar hesitated. And once again the sweat of his hand
moistened
the smooth shaft of the spear. But know the beads stood out on his forehead
as
well, as the force of Gabriel's words did battle with centuries of warrior
instinct.

A long moment passed. Finally Balthasar loosed his grip, and the spear
dropped
toward the floor. But as he looked at the child at his feet, he whispered
anxiously, "But here? Is it safe to leave it here?"

The angel released a long-held breath as he whispered back, "This is the
only
safe place to leave it."

"But he is a child, and the spear is sharp. It could pierce his flesh."

"That fear you must leave to heaven," Gabriel replied.

And they say that Balthasar went calmly from the stable, his arms hanging
gently at his sides. They say that he walked first to Gaspar and Melchior,
where they waited, and embraced them as brothers. Then, turning to the
others
who watched, he went first to one and then to the next, enfolding each in
his
outstretched arms as one greeting beloved friends whom he has not seen in a
very long time.

* * *

That, at least, is how the story has always been told. And it is true, as
far
as it goes. But you have listened well, and now you know the whole of it.

Now you too may kneel before the Christ child to leave at his feet those
unseen,
secret things that may be left nowhere else but there. And having visited
the
holy place, you too like those three visitors of old, may go on your way
made
new.

But what of their gifts, you ask? What of the hammer and the vinegar and
the
spear? Well, there is another story about them and how they were seen once
more, years later, in fact, on a lonely hill outside of Jerusalem. But do
not
worry. That is a burden heaven took upon itself, as only heaven can. And
will, even to this very day.

Monday, December 16, 1996

This week's Humor & Mystery

Hi everyone,

I hope your week is going well. Here is the humor for this week, sent
to me by May Lee. Sorry if you've seen it already. Please continue to
send me you humorous emails.

In addition to the humor, I would like to ask for your help to help me
in solving a mystery that started this summer. Someone, one of you
perhaps, sent me a postcard from Ottawa this summer, and I can't figure
out who, because I can't read the signature. If you sent me this card
or know who did, please let me know. Here's what is basically on the
card:

"7/19/96
Josh- Hope your summer is going well. Wishing you were with us here in
Ottawa. Great program and people. You can do this. Your friends,
[Unrecognizable Signature]."

Here is the humor below. Enjoy!

>> Algebraic Sociology
>>
>> After applying some simple algebra to some trite phrases >>and
cliches a new understanding can be reached of the secret >>to
wealth
and success.
>>
>> Here it goes.
>>
Knowledge is Power
Time is Money and as every engineer knows, >>
Power is Work over Time.
>>
>> So, substituting algebraic equations for these time worn >>bits
of
wisdom,
>> we get:
>> K = P (1)
>> T = M (2)
>> P = W/T (3)
>>
>> Now, do a few simple substitutions: >>
>> Put W/T in for P in equation (1), which yields: >>
>> K = W/T (4)
>>
>> Put M in for T into equation (4), which yields: >>
>> K = W/M (5).
>>
>> Now we've got something. Expanding back into English, we
>>get:
>>
>> Knowledge equals Work over Money. >>

>> What this MEANS is that:
>>
1. The More You Know, the More Work You Do, and >>
2. The More You Know, the Less Money You Make. >>
>> Solving for Money, we get:
>>
>> M = W/K (6)
>> Money equals Work Over Knowledge. >>
>> From equation (6) we see that Money approaches infinity >>as
Knowledge approaches 0, regardless of the Work done. >>
>> What THIS MEANS is:
>>
>> The More you Make, the Less you Know. >>
>> Solving for Work, we get
>>
>> W = M K (7)
>> Work equals Money times Knowledge >>
>> From equation (7) we see that Work approaches 0 as >>Knowledge
approaches 0.
>>
>> What THIS MEANS is:
>>
>> The stupid rich do little or no work.
>> Working out the socioeconomic implications of this breakthrough
is
left as an exercise for the reader.

>
> MediaCity World
http://www.mediacity.com >

Sunday, December 08, 1996

Dilbert's Laws of Work

Hi everyone,

Here's a real humorous email. I hope you enjoy it, and haven't seen it
before. Forwarded to me by Julie Huang. Take care!

-Josh.

DILBERT'S LAWS OF WORK

If you can't get your work done in the first 24 hours, work nights.

A pat on the back is only a few centimeters from a kick in the butt.

Don't be irreplaceable, if you can't be replaced, you can't be
promoted.

It doesn't matter what you do, it only matters what you say you've
done and what you're going to do.

After any salary raise, you will have less money at the end of the
month than you did before.

The more crap you put up with, the more crap you are going to get.

You can go anywhere you want if you look serious and carry a
clipboard.

Eat one live toad the first thing in the morning and nothing worse
will happen to you the rest of the day.

When the bosses talk about improving productivity, they are never
talking about themselves.

If at first you don't succeed, try again. Then quit. No use being a
damn fool about it.

There will always be beer cans rolling on the floor of your car when
the boss asks for a ride home from the office.

Keep your boss's boss off your boss's back.

Everything can be filed under "miscellaneous."

Never delay the ending of a meeting or the beginning of a cocktail
hour.

To err is human, to forgive is not our policy.

Anyone can do any amount of work provided it isn't the work he/she is
supposed to be doing.

Important letters that contain no errors will develop errors in the
mail.

If you are good, you will be assigned all the work. If you are really
good, you will get out of it.

You are always doing something marginal when the boss drops by your
desk.

People who go to conferences are the ones who shouldn't.

If it wasn't for the last minute, nothing would get done.

At work, the authority of a person is inversely proportional to the
number of pens that person is carrying.

When you don't know what to do, walk fast and look worried.

Following the rules will not get the job done.

Getting the job done is no excuse for not following the rules.

When confronted by a difficult problem you can solve it more easily
by reducing it to the question, "How would the Lone Ranger handle this?"

No matter how much you do, you never do enough.

The last person that quit or was fired will be held responsible for
everything that goes wrong.
_______________________________
Subject: Dilbert

I get about 100 e-mail messages a day from readers of my comic strip
"Dilbert." Most are from disgruntled office workers, psychopaths,
stalkers, comic-strip fans -- that sort of person. But a
growing
number are from women who write to say they think Dilbert is sexy.
Some say they've already married a Dilbert and couldn't be happier.
If you're not familiar with Dilbert, he's an electrical
engineer who
spends most of his time with his computer. He's a nice guy
but not exactly Kevin Costner.

Okay, Dilbert is polite, honest, employed and educated. And
he stays home. These are good traits, but they don't exactly explain
the incredible sex appeal. So what's the attraction?

I think it's a Darwinian thing. We're attracted to the people
who have the best ability to survive and thrive. In the old days
it was important to be able to run down an antelope and kill it with
a single blow to the forehead.

But that skill is becoming less important every year.

Now all that matters is if you can install your own Ethernet
card without having to call tech support and confess your inadequacies
to a stranger whose best career option is to work in tech support.

It's obvious that the world has three distinct classes of
people, each with its own evolutionary destiny:

Knowledgeable computer users who will evolve into godlike
non-corporeal beings who rule the universe (except for those
who work in tech support).

Computer owners who try to pass as knowledgeable but secretly
use hand calculators to add totals to their Excel spreadsheets. This
group will gravitate toward jobs as high school principals and
operators of pet crematoriums. Eventually they will become extinct.

Non-computer users who will grow tails, sit in zoos and fling dung at
tourists.

Obviously, if you're a woman and you're trying to decide which
evolutionary track you want your offspring to take, you don't
want to put them on the luge ride to the dung-flinging Olympics. You
want a real man. You want a knowledgeable computer user with
evolution potential.

And women prefer men who listen. Computer users are excellent
listeners because they can look at you for long periods of
time without saying anything. Granted, early in a relationship
it's better if the guy actually talks. But men use up all the stories
they'll ever have after six months. If a woman marries a guy who's
in, let's say, retail sales, she'll get repeat stories starting in the
seventh month and lasting forever. Marry an engineer and she gets a
great listener for the next 70 years.

Plus, with the ozone layer evaporating, it's a good strategy
to mate with somebody who has an indoor hobby. Outdoorsy men are
applying suntan lotion with SPF 10,000 and yet by the age of 30 they
still look like dried chili peppers in pants. Compare that with the
healthy glow of a man who spends 12 hours a day in front of a video
screen.

It's also well established that computer users are better
lovers. I know because I heard an actual anecdote from someone who knew
a woman who married a computer user and they reportedly had sex many
times. I realize this isn't statistically valid, but you have to admit
it's the most persuasive thing I've written so far.

If you still doubt the sexiness of male PC users, consider
their hair. They tend to have either: (1) male pattern baldness -- a
sign of elevated testosterone -- or (2) unkempt jungle hair -- the
kind you see only on people who just finished a frenzied bout of
lovemaking. If this were a trial I think we could reach a verdict on
the strong circumstantial evidence alone.

I realize there are a lot of skeptics out there. They'll
delight in pointing out the number of computer users who wear wrist
braces and suggest it isn't the repetitive use of the keyboard that
causes the problem. That's okay. Someday those skeptics will be
flinging dung at tourists. Then who'll be laughing? (Answer to
rhetorical question: everybody but the tourists.)

Henry Kissinger said power is the ultimate aphrodisiac. And
Bill Clinton said that knowledge is power. Therefore, logically,
according to the U.S. government, knowledge of computers is the
ultimate aphrodisiac. You could argue with me -- I'm just a cartoonist
-- but it's hard to argue with the government. Remember, they run
the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms, so they must know a thing
or two about satisfying women.

You might think this was enough to convince anyone that men
who use computers are sexy. But look at it from my point of view: I'm
getting paid by the word for this article. I'm not done yet.

In less enlightened times, the best way to impress women was
to own a hot car. But women wised up and realized it was better to buy
their own hot cars so they wouldn't have to ride around with jerks.

Technology has replaced hot cars as the new symbol of robust
manhood. Men know that unless they get a digital line to the Internet
no woman is going to look at them twice.

It's getting worse. Soon anyone who's not on the World Wide
Web will qualify for a government subsidy for the home-pageless. And
nobody likes a man who takes money from the government, except maybe
Marilyn Monroe, which is why the CIA killed her. And if you think
that's stupid, I've got 100 words to go.

Finally, there's the issue of mood lighting. Nothing looks
sexier than a man in boxer shorts illuminated only by a 15-inch SVGA
monitor. If we agree that this is every woman's dream scenario, then I
think we can also agree that it's best if the guy knows how to use the
computer. Otherwise, he'll just look like a loser sitting in
front of a PC in his underwear.

In summary, it's not that I think non-PC users are less attractive.
It's just that I'm sure they won't read this article

Monday, December 02, 1996

Some Humor

Hi everyone,

It's been a long time since I spoke or emailed some of you. I've been
really busy lately working on my business school applications, so I have
barely called any of you or wrote you anything. When I'm done, I'll try
to send you each a personal email. In the meantime, here's some humor
for your enjoyment. Sporadically I'll send you some of the amusing
emails that have been forwared to me.

Thanks to May Lee for forwarding me this. Sorry to all of you who have
already gotten this months ago.

Take care and talk to you soon!

-Josh.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE ADDICTED TO THE NET

1. All of your friends have an @ in their names.

2. You wake up a 3 a.m. to go to the bathroom and stop and check
your
e-mail on the way
back to bed.

3. E-mail Deficiency Depression forces you to e-mail yourself.

4. You find yourself counting emoticons to get to sleep.

5. You religiously respond immediately to e-mail, while ignoring
your
growing pile of
snail mail.

6. You start using smileys in your snail mail.

7. You're constantly yelling at your spouse/children for using the
phone for
stupid
things...like talking.

8. Everyone you know asks why your phone line is always busy...and
you're seriously
considering getting a second phone line.

9. You find yourself staring at your "inbox" waiting for new e-mail
to
arrive.

10. You communicate with people on other continents more than you
do
with your own
neighbors.

11. You promise yourself that you'll only stay online for another
15
minutes...at least
once every hour.

12. You're being audited because you mailed your tax return to the
IRC.

13. At parties, you introduce your spouse as your "service
provider."

14. You think more about being online than you do about sex.

15. You wear a t-shirt that says "This body best viewed with
Netscape
1.1 or
higher.


TOP 10 SIGNS YOU ARE AN INTERNET GEEK

10. When filling out your driver's license application you give
your
IP address.

9. You no longer ask prospective dates what their sign is, instead
your line
is "Hi,
what's your URL?"

8. Instead of calling you to dinner, your spouse sends e-mail.

7. You're amazed to find out Spam is a food.

6. You "ping" people to see if they're awake, "finger" them to find
out how
they are,
and "AYT" them to make sure they're listening to you.

5. You search the Net endlessly hoping to win every silly free
T-shirt
contest.

4. You introduce your wife as "my lady@home.wife" and refer to your
children
as "client
applications."

3. At social functions you introduce your husband as "my domain
server."

2. After winning the office Super Bowl, pool you blurt out, "I feel
so
Colon-Right-Parentheses!"

1. Two words: "Pizza's here."

Sunday, December 01, 1996

Why This Blog?

May 29, 2006 - Official Start of This Blog, Abby Li's Dad

I hope you had a great Memorial Day! A couple of weeks ago, I went to the Bay area to visit some clients. I also had a chance to meet up with several friends each night for dinner. At one of the dinners, I met up with Zhiyi Yu, a classmate of mine from college, who is now a senior executive at openBC, and her husband, Eric Ly, a serial entrepreneur, who is now working on his next startup. Kevin Chen, a friend of mine from BCEC and his girlfriend, Wei Kuan, was also at dinner.

One of the things we talked about at dinner was the weekly emails that I used to send to my friends and acquaintances for six years, from 1996 to 2002. It all started back in December 1996, when I decided to forward a piece of humor to some friends in my small group. Over time, I started to add more and more friends to the distribution list. In addition to just a piece of wholesome humor, I started to add other components to the weekly email, such as an edifying story, a thought provoking question, or a mental puzzle. I also usually start the email with a short paragraph summarizing what I did that week, where I traveled to, etc. I actually looked forward to writing my weekly emails, because it gave me a chance to reflect on my week, and keep a record of my activities. It was a kind of a short diary.

When the whole blog phenomenon started, I thought about my weekly emails. In a sense my weekly emails were a blog. I thought about putting all my weekly emails into a new blog, but I decided that it would take too much effort. When I finally started to write a blog, I didn't just want to write a blog about my week like most people who write blogs, so I decided to focus my blog on networking for career advancement, called Altimeter.

At dinner, everyone encouraged me to put my weekly emails into a new blog. So, that's the reason for this blog, Abby Li's Dad. I have put all my weekly emails into this blog as archives. Going forward, I will try to write something on a weekly basis, as a reflection of being Abby's dad, Melissa's husband, or as an executive at RichFX, etc. I will probably focus this blog on fatherhood. So, if you are a parent, I especially welcome your thoughts and advice on how to be a good and Godly parent.

May 29, 2006

I hope you had a great Memorial Day! A couple of weeks ago, I went to the Bay area to visit some clients. I also had a chance to meet up with several friends each night for dinner. At one of the dinners, I met up with Zhiyi Yu, a classmate of mine from college, who is now a senior executive at openBC, and her husband, Eric Ly, a serial entrepreneur, who is now working on his next startup.

One of the things we talked about at dinner was the weekly emails that I used to send to my friends and acquaintances for six years, from 1996 to 2002. It all started back in December 1996, when I decided to forward a piece of humor to some friends in my small group. Over time, I started to add more and more friends to the distribution list. In addition to just a piece of wholesome humor, I started to add other components to the weekly email, such as an edifying story, a thought provoking question, or a mental puzzle. I also usually start the email with a short paragraph summarizing what I did that week, where I traveled to, etc. I actually looked forward to writing my weekly emails, because it gave me a chance to reflect on my week, and keep a record of my activities. It was a kind of a short diary.

When the whole blog phenomenon started, I thought about my weekly emails. In a sense my weekly emails were a blog. I thought about putting all my weekly emails into a new blog, but I decided that it would take too much effort. When I finally started to write a blog, I didn't just want to write a blog about my week like most people who write blogs, so I decided to focus my blog on networking for career advancement, called Altimeter.

At dinner, Zhiyi, Eric, and the other friends all encouraged me to put my weekly emails into a new blog. So, that's the reason for this blog, Abby Li's Dad. I have put all my weekly emails into this blog as archives. Going forward, I will try to write something on a weekly basis, as a reflection of being Abby's dad, Melissa's husband, or as an executive at RichFX, etc. I will probably focus this blog on fatherhood. So, if you are a parent, I especially welcome your thoughts and advice on how to be a good and Godly parent.