Abby Li's Dad

For almost six years (1996 to 2002), I sent out a weekly email to my friends. This blog serves as an archive for those emails. The entries starting in May 2006 are my personal reflections on life as a father to Abby, a husband to Melissa, and everything else.

Monday, December 18, 2000

12/17/00: Stethoscope, Hidden Meaning

Hi,

I hope everything is going well, and that you're not too stressed with your
Christmas shopping and other things. In case I do not get a chance to see
you over the Christmas holidays or talk to you in person, I wish you a
great Christmas and New Year's. Please remember the real meaning of
Christmas! It is very easy to get caught up in all the commercialism
during the Christmas season. But for me, the purpose of Christmas is to
celebrate the birth of baby Jesus, who came on earth to die for our sins.
If you get a chance to sing some of the Christmas carols, I would encourage
you to think about the meaning of the lyrics.

Again, I'll be in New York City from 12/20 to 1/6, so I won't be sending
out my weekly emails until I get back. It was in the mid 70's and sunny
with a clear blue sky today in LA. I hope it won't be too cold in NY. My
blood has already thinned out.

I finally watched "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon" this past weekend. I
thoroughly enjoyed it and highly recommend it!

This week's thought provoking question is: "If you could hire any
architect alive or from history to design your dream house, who would you
pick, and where would you build it?"

Anna Man and Jennifer Deniega forwarded the humor and inspirational pieces,
respectively.

Enjoy!

-Josh.
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Stethoscope

On the way to preschool, the doctor had left her stethoscope on the car
seat, and her little girl picked it up and began playing with it.

"Be still, my heart," thought the doctor, "my daughter wants to follow in
my footsteps!"

Then the child spoke into the instrument, "Welcome to McDonald's. May I
take your order?"
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Hidden Meaning

People often think of The Twelve Days of Christmas as the days preceding
the festival. Actually, Christmas is a season of the Christian Year that
last for 12 days beginning December 25 and lasting until January 6 the Day
of Epiphany when the church celebrates the revelation of Christ as the
light of the world and recalls the journey of the Magi.

>From 1558 until 1829 people in England were not allowed to practice their
faith openly. During this era someone wrote 'The Twelve Days of Christmas'
as a kind of secret catechism that could be sung in public without risk of
persecution. The song has two levels of interpretation: the surface
meaning plus a hidden meaning known only to members of the church.

Each element in the carol is a code word for a religious reality.
1. The partridge in a pear tree is Jesus Christ.
2. The two turtledoves are the Old and New Testaments.
3. Three French hens stand for faith, hope and love.
4. The four calling birds are the four Gospels.
5. The five gold rings recall the torah (Law) the first five books of the
Old Testament.
6. The six geese alaying stand for the six days of creation.
7. Seven swans aswimming represent the sevenfold gifts of the Spirit.
8. The eight maids amilking are the eight beatitudes. (Matthew v, 312)
9. Nine ladies dancing are the nine fruits of the spirit. (Gal.5).
10. The ten lords aleaping are the Ten Commandments.
11. Eleven pipers piping stand for the eleven faithful disciples.
12. Twelve drummers drumming symbolize the 12 points of belief in the
Apostles Creed.

There you have it, the HIDDEN meaning of "The Twelve Days of Christmas" and
the secret behind the song. Received this from a friend and it gave new
meaning to the song we sing at this time of year. Hope you find this as
"New/Old Meaning" to the season.

Monday, December 11, 2000

12/10/00: First Aid, Family

Hi,

I had fun this Saturday night at the Christmas party for our young adult
group. We had a really good dinner, played games, sang Christmas carols,
and played a "white elephant" gift exchange game. I had a pretty good
first pick, so my selected gifts were constantly "stolen" by others. I
finally ended up with the "Young Messiah" tape, which I'm happy with. It
was quite fun.

I was disappointed that "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon" did not open here
in LA this past weekend. So, I'm organizing a group of people to go watch
it this Saturday, 12/16. We can meet for dinner, and then go watch the
movie. Let me know if you want to come and I'll send you more details
later on this week. I'm really looking forward to this film!

Jhemon Lee, a college friend and member of APEX's board of directors asked
me to give a presentation on "How to Give an Effective Presentation". When
I was at Andersen Consulting, I attended training in this area and
subsequently, adapted the materials into a workshop I gave two other times.
This presentation will be on Monday, 12/18, starting at 7 pm, in Glendale.
It will be free for APEX members, and $5 for non-members. However, I've
asked permission to invite a few friends to come for free (limit 5). So,
if you are NOT an APEX member and want to come, please let me know. If you
are an APEX member, please RSVP to Josephine Cheung at:
jjcheung98@yahoo.com. Light snacks will be provided.

I'll be in New York City from 12/20 to 1/6. I look forward to seeing all
of you there! Let's get together for lunch, dinner, coffee, visits to art
museums, Broadway shows, sightseeing, whatever. My cell # is:
818-438-8930. My parent's # is: 718-454-7608. Talk to you soon!

Valerie Cheung asked me to invite everyone to an Asian American theatrical
performance. I love to watch Asian American plays, and I encourage all of
you in LA to go. Here's a brief description:
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5 Young Asian Americans.
1 Apartment.
ZERO Life.

Come join us for a special staged reading of Michael Golamco's seriocomic
"Achievers," a new play about being young, getting evicted and coping with
roommates (real and imaginary) who hate you.

"Achievers" will be performed at 7:30pm on Tuesday, December 19th at the
Morgan-Wixson Theater, 2627 Pico Blvd, Santa Monica.

Directed by Howard Jonathan Hong, the reading will feature in alphabetical
order: Ray Chang, Karin Cheung, Corrine Chooey, Kennedy Kabasares, Noel Wu.

** ADMISSION IS FREE, BUT SEATING IS LIMITED **. Please call 323-692-2880
or email performances@propergander.net for reservations. The Morgan-Wixson
Theater is located 1/2 mile east of Santa Monica College. There is free
parking on Pico Blvd., 26th and 27th St.
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This week's thought provoking question is: "If you could have the mind of
someone from history and remain in your own body, whose would you choose?"

Many of you sent me your scores for the interesting personality test I sent
out last week. Almost all of the scores are between 40 and 50
(self-selection bias?). Derek Wong sent me this link to some other
personality tests. I definitely recommend the Keirsey test (Myers-Brigg).

http://www.2h.com/Tests/personality.phtml

This week's humor was forwarded from Anna Man. The inspirational story was
forwarded from Lily Wei Chen.

Enjoy!

-Josh.

P.S. Remember the true meaning of CHRIST-mas!
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First Aid Help

On a stifling hot day, a man fainted in the middle of a busy intersection.
As traffic began to pile up in all directions, a woman rushed to help him.
As she knelt down to loosen his collar, a man emerged from the crowd,
pushed her aside, and he said, "It's all right, honey. I've had a course
in first aid."

She stood up and watched as he took the man's pulse and prepared to
administer artificial respiration. Then she tapped him on the shoulder.
"When you get to the part about calling a doctor," she said, "I'm already
here."
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Family

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.
He said, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."
We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said good-bye.

But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.
Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.
He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.

While I lay awake that night in my bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,
"While dealing with a stranger, common courtesy you use,
but the children you love, you seem to abuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.
Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise.
You never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."

By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Please wake up, little one," I said.
"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found 'em out by the tree.
I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."

I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay. I love you anyway."
I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."

Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company that we are working for
could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family we left behind
will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it,
we pour ourselves more into work than to our own family. An unwise
investment indeed, don't you think?

So what is behind the story?
Do you know what the word FAMILY means?

FAMILY=(F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER, (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU!

Monday, December 04, 2000

12/3/00: Personality Test, The Brick

Hi,

One of the highlights of my past week was a Christmas concert at UCLA by
three of its choral groups. They sang a great deal of J.S. Bach, and one
of my favorite pieces was the "Magnificat", where Bach set Luke 1:46-55
(Mary's praise to God for Jesus) in Latin to beautiful classical music.
The 3 groups also sang some of the traditional Christmas carols very
powerfully and wonderfully.

A high school classmate sent us an email about another classmate, Reza
Jarrehy. It turns out that Reza is marrying Geena Davis (the actress)!

http://www.abcnews.go.com/sections/entertainment/DailyNews/geena001127.html

This coming Friday, 12/8, I'm organizing a group of people to go watch
"Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon". The theater location and times haven't
been announced yet. Let me know if you want to come (if you haven't
emailed me already). I'll send you more details later on in the week. I'm
thinking of a show around 8 pm, either in Universal City or Century City.

This week's thought provoking question is: "If you could be a contestant
on any game show, which would you like to be on?"

We won't have a humor piece this week. Instead, I've included a very
interesting personality test forwarded from Lily Wei Chen. (By the way, my
score was 45. I would love to hear what's your score!) The inspirational
story was forwarded from Jennifer Deniega.

Enjoy!

-Josh.
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Interesting Personality Test

Take this test for yourself...and send it to your friends, including me,
and let them know who you are. Don't peek but begin the test as you scroll
down and answer. Answer for who you are now...not who you were in the
past. Have a writing stick and paper ready.

This is a real test given by the Human Relations Dept. at any of the major
corporations today. It helps them get a better insight concerning their
employees and prospective employees.

It's 10 simple questions, so keep track of your letter answers. Make sure
to change the subject of the e-mail to read YOUR total. When you are
finished, forward this to everyone you know, and also send it to the person
who sent this to you.

Make sure to put YOUR score in the subject box.
Ready? Begin...

1. When do you feel your best?
(a) in the morning
(b) during the afternoon & early evening
(c) late at night

2. You usually walk
(a) fairly fast, with long steps
(b) fairly fast, with short, quick steps
(c) less fast head up, looking the world in the face
(d) less fast, head down
(e) very slowly

3. When talking to people you
(a) stand with your arms folded
(b) have your hands clasped
(c) have one or both your hands on your hips
(d) touch or push the person to whom you are talking
(e) play with your ear, touch your chin, or smooth your hair

4. When relaxing, you sit with
(a) your knees bent with your legs neatly side by side
(b) your legs crossed
(c) your legs stretched out or straight
(d) one leg curled under you

5. When something really amuses you, you react with
(a) a big, appreciative laugh
(b) a laugh, but not a loud one
(c) a quiet chuckle
(d) a sheepish smile

6. When you go to a party or social gathering you..
(a) make a loud entrance so everyone notices you
(b) make a quiet entrance, looking around for someone you know
(c) make the quietest entrance, trying to stay unnoticed

7. You're working very hard, concentrating hard, and you're interrupted. Do
you..
(a) welcome the break
(b) feel extremely irritated
(c) vary between these two extremes

8. Which of the following colors do you like most?
(a) red or orange
(b) black
(c) yellow or light blue
(d) green
(e) dark blue or purple
(f) white
(g) brown or gray

9. When you are in bed at night, in those last few moments before going to
sleep, you lie
(a) stretched out on your back
(b) stretched out face down on your stomach
(c) on your side, slightly curled
(d) with your head on one arm
(e) with your head under the covers

10. You often dream that you are
(a) falling
(b) fighting or struggling
(c) searching for something or somebody
(d) flying or floating
(e) you usually have dreamless sleep
(f) your dreams are always pleasant

POINTS:
1.(a) 2
(b) 4
(c) 6

2. (a) 6
(b) 4
(c) 7
(d) 2
(e) 1

3. (a) 4
(b) 2
(c) 5
(d) 7
(e) 6

4. (a) 4
(b) 6
(c) 2
(d) 1

5. (a) 6
(b) 4
(c) 3
(d) 5
(e) 2

6. (a) 6
(b) 4
(c) 2

7. (a) 6
(b) 2
(c) 4

8. (a) 6
(b) 7
(c) 5
(d) 4
(e) 3
(f) 2
(g) 1

9. (a) 7
(b) 6
(c) 4
(d) 2
(e) 1

10. (a) 4
(b) 2
(c) 3
(d) 5
(e) 6
(f) 1

Now add up the total number of points.

OVER 60 POINTS: Others see you as someone they should "handle with care".
You're seen as vain, self-centered, and who is extremely dominant. Others
may admire you, wishing they could be more like you, but don't always trust
you, hesitating to become too deeply involved with you.

51 TO 60 POINTS: Others see you as an exciting, highly volatile, rather
impulsive personality; a natural leader, who's quick to make decisions,
though not always the right ones. They see you as bold and adventuresome,
someone who will try anything once; someone who takes chances and enjoys an
adventure. They enjoy being in your company because of the excitement you
radiate.

41 TO 50 POINTS: Others see you as fresh, lively, charming, amusing,
practical, and always interesting; someone who's constantly in the center
of attention, but sufficiently well-balanced not to let it go to their
head. They also see you as kind, considerate, and understanding; someone
who'll always cheer them up and help them out.

31 TO 40 POINTS: Others see you as sensible, cautious, careful & practical.
They see you as clever, gifted, or talented, but modest... Not a person who
makes friends too quickly or easily, but someone who's extremely loyal to
friends you do make and who expect the same loyalty in return. Those who
really get to know you realize it takes a lot to shake your trust in your
friends, but equally that it takes you a long time to get over it if that
trust is ever broken.

21 TO 30 POINTS: Your friends see you as painstaking and fussy. They see
you as very cautious, extremely careful, a slow and steady plodder. It'd
really surprise them if you ever did something impulsively or on the spur
of the moment, expecting you to examine everything carefully from every
angle and then, usually decide against it. They think this reaction is
caused partly by your careful nature.

UNDER 21 POINTS: People think you are shy, nervous, and indecisive, someone
who needs looking after, who always wants someone else to make the
decisions and who doesn't want to get involved with anyone or anything.
They see you as a worrier who always sees problems that don't exist. Some
people think you're boring. Only those who know you well know that you
aren't.

Now forward this on to everyone you know, making sure to put YOUR score in
the subject box!
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Puzzle: None this week
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The Brick

A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street
going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting
out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw
something. As his car passed, no children appeared. Instead a brick
smashed into the Jag's side door! He slammed on the brakes and spun the
Jag back to the spot from where the brick had been thrown. He jumped out
of the car, grabbed some kid, pushed him up against a parked car and began
shouting what was that all about and who are you? Just what the heck are
you doing? Building up a head of steam he went on. "That's a new car and
that brick you threw is going to cost a lot of money. Why did you do it?"
"Please, mister, please. I'm sorry, I didn't know what else to do" pleaded
the youngster. "I threw the brick because no one else would stop..."

Tears were dripping down the boy's chin as he pointed around the parked
car. "It's my brother," he said. "He rolled off the curb and fell out of
his wheelchair and I can't lift him up." Sobbing, the boy asked the
executive, "Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair?
He's hurt and he's too heavy for me."

Moved beyond words, the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump
in his throat. He lifted the young man back into the wheelchair and took
out his handkerchief and wiped the scrapes and cuts, checking to see that
everything was going to be okay.

"Thank you and God bless you," the grateful child said to him. The man then
watched the little boy push his brother down the sidewalk toward their home.

It was a long walk back to his Jaguar....a long, slow walk. He never did
repair the side door. He kept the dent to remind him not to go through
life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention.

God whispers in your soul and speaks to your heart. Sometimes when you
don't have time to listen, He has to throw a "brick" at you. It's your
choice:

Listen to the whisper-or wait for the brick....